Are you ready to build

Explosive Confidence

from the outside, in?

I teach high achievers how to get out of their heads and into their bodies so they can increase their style, emotional, and social intelligence, attract the right people, and show up as their most authentically confident selves!

The Tamron Hall Show

Let’s Get Real About the Realities Of Dating After 40

Featuring Kimmy and The Golden Bachelor.

Dating strategist and confidence therapist Kimmy Seltzer joins the conversation with “The Golden Bachelor” Gerry Turner to get candid about dating after 40. TikTok star Tiffany Maldonado also weighs in on the discussion with insight on how her viral videos are making waves on the internet.

Dating in The Golden Years

Kimmy on ABC7, LA.

On the show Kimmy talks about dating in your "Golden Years" or dating in the Second Act as she calls it. The beautiful part about dating over 50 or later in life, is time. You can really enjoy and get to know yourself as a whole new person. What you want might even be different. 

Kimmy Seltzer TEDxApex

How Marketing Yourself Attracts Love

Marketing yourself can attract the love you want. Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist, Authentic Dating Strategist, and Image Expert. With vast knowledge and experience as a therapist, certified style coach, dating coach, and matchmaker, she has helped people find lasting love and connection. Kimmy continues to help her clients attract

success and build valuable relationships using her unique “confidence makeover” process. Using an outside-in approach, Kimmy implements targeted style, emotional and social intelligence in people’s lives using her signature formula, “The Charisma Quotient,” working on body language, first impressions, image/wardrobe, and flirting and how it impacts attraction.

What is Your
Dating Diagnosis?

You know yourself, I know dating. Let’s do this together.

Discover your personal dating profile so you can stop doubting yourself, capitalize on your natural strength, and create sexy confidence that people can’t ignore! 


I’m Kimmy Seltzer, your dating, love, and makeover expert!
I’m an ex-therapist turned dating strategist, image consultant, podcast host, author, and nationally recognized speaker.

With passion, first-hand experience, tough love, and lots and lots of resilience, I’ve found my purpose guiding high achievers to build explosive confidence and create a gateway to love, prosperity, and ultimately happiness. After over a decade impacting thousands of lives with my signature formula, “The Charisma Quotient, I’ve discovered one undeniable truth: you can love yourself… and make other people do the same!

Today, I'm a speaker at National Matchmaking Conferences, eHarmony, Neutrogena, The Guild at Universal, UCLA and iDate. I’m also a regular contributor to the Huffington Post with appearances in Cosmopolitan, Oprah Magazine, Redbook, Reader’s Digest, AskMen,








will give you

Explosive confidence that people can’t ignore

Let’s expand your charisma quotient!
Keep reading to choose the hand-crafted program that supports you and your goals!



My signature transformational dating, style, and presence programs are anything but cookie cutter…
and are designed for high achievers who are done settling for less than having it all!

Isn’t it time you stopped hiding, and started standing out powerfully and confidently?
Isn’t it time you removed the messy stress, paralyzing overwhelm, and lack of clarity when it comes to your dating life?
Isn’t it time you were seen and valued as the connected, likable, sexy person you can be?

Dating Coach

Learn How to Attract That Special Someone!

Available for both men and women looking for love, my intimate dating coaching experiences are designed to equip you with all the tools you need to charm your way to love, stand out, and land your dream partner.

You’ll be equipped with techniques including:

  • Conquering Fears
  • Creating A Dating Plan
  • Making A Great First Impression That Lands Dates
  • Navigating Online Dating
  • The Art of Flirting
  • Conversation Tricks Online and Offline


Look (and Feel) Your Absolute Best After years of working with women and men of all backgrounds and beliefs, I’ve learned that the path to true confidence is accelerated when approached from the outside, in. The way you show up externally has the power to shift the way you view yourself internally, and in turn, shift the way others see you!

That’s why my highly personalized image consulting and makeover programs will expand your style intelligence so you feel your absolute best and most confident!

I’ll guide you in the areas of:

  • Learning how to shop for your body type
  • Discovering your personal style
  • Understanding what styles, shapes, fabrics, brands and colors flatters you so you can shop more efficiently on your own
  • Learning to put together outfits according to your lifestyle
  • How to use style as tool for inner confidence
  • WHY I DO

Success StorIES

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the charisma Quotient


The Charisma Quotient Podcast is your listening center to Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love. Each week, Kimmy Seltzer and other experts will share their strategies to build confidence, avoid common dating pitfalls, and find lasting love with your partner AND yourself.

Kim is best known for her lighthearted, down-to-earth and practical approach that blends fun, information, and heart to seemingly taboo subjects. Her listeners describe her as “the perfect combination of visiting a brilliant therapist and having wine with one of your closest girlfriends.”

Join the Charisma Quotient listening community and discover how to break up with bad dating habits and build love that lasts!

Fan Favorite EPISODES

  • Why is Tom Storey Single? Building Dating Resilience
  • Top 5 Dating Fears That Prevent You from Finding Love
  • How to Stop Attracting Narcissists
  • What is Your Dating Archetype?

Book Kimmy to Speak

Are you looking to feature a thought leader who brings heart and strategy insight into seemingly taboo subjects like love, dating, image, and confidence?

I am best known as a Confidence Therapist, Dating Strategist + Image Expert who empowers audiences with a bold and inspiring approach to style, emotional, and social intelligence. My easy-to-connect-with presence and interactive topics capture the hearts and attention of my audiences whether in a large corporate setting, intimate workshop, online webinar, or print publication.

Are you ready for a speaker who blends years of first-hand experience, proven strategy, and genuine passion for people?

Happiness, love,

and total confidence

are yours for the taking.
What are you waiting for?