“Build Confidence, Make Connections,
and Find Love from
the outside, in!”
I help people change the way
they look and feel.
Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist, Authentic Dating Strategist, and Image Expert. With vast knowledge and experience as a therapist, certified style coach, dating coach, and matchmaker, she has helped people find lasting love and connection, attract success and build valuable relationships using her unique “confidence makeover” process. Using an outside-in approach, Kimmy implements targeted style, emotional and social intelligence in people’s lives using her signature formula, “The Charisma Quotient,” working on body language, first impressions, image/wardrobe, and flirting and how it impacts attraction.
Most often our mindset dictates how we show up, whether in relationships or in our own personal pursuits. If we are not in the right frame of mind, our actions and demeanor reflect that. Especially when it comes to social settings, we don't dress the part until we feel ready, aligned and have fully embraced our confidence.
For more than a decade, as a licensed therapist, I taught individuals to work on themselves from the inside out. But then I personally experienced a personal transformation that flipped that script and changed the way I help people today. Years ago, as a young mom of two during the time I was a traditional therapist, I was blind-sided by divorce. There was a period of time where I literally couldn't get out of bed, let alone out of my own way. I wore enormous oversized maternity clothes, and did everything I could to not be seen. Until one day I woke up and looked in the mirror, and I was horrified by what I saw. Before me was a sad, frumpy woman who couldn't get out of her own way. And here I was a therapist...I should know better. I had a ton of counseling myself, a great support system but I still couldn't get out of my own way. Inside out...hogwash! I was standing completely still in analysis paralysis. I needed movement. I needed action. Deciding it was time for a change, I went shopping and was encouraged to try on something completely out of my comfort zone...a red dress that looked like it was 3 sizes too small. But the personal shopper assured me that it was my color and it was my size. So I tried it on like Cinderella, twirled around and looked in the mirror and bam. This was what I call my "red dress moment" where everything shifted for me. Seeing myself dressed that way--in clothing that actually fit my body and in a color that was to be seen. This was me. But I had to see it in order to believe it to create action and build my confidence.
And after years of working with women and men from all backgrounds, cultures and beliefs, what I learned is that confidence is gained faster when you approach it from the outside in. How you are showing up externally can literally shift how you view yourself, and in turn, how others view you. I believe confidence is at the core of achieving our desires through experience and action. It's the gateway to love, prosperity and ultimately, happiness. Through my products, programs and coaching, I help people build confidence from the outside in--to find the love of their life, to conquer their social fears, to finally love themselves. And from that framework I help people with my unique Charisma Quotient formula, implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to people's lives.