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Sexual confidence is a feeling of being comfortable in your body and knowing you deserve pleasure, and being able to articulate what you enjoy as well as listening to the needs of your sexual partner. But how can we build that confidence in the bedroom and overcome the performance anxiety when getting intimate with a partner? Here to answer all these and more is Intimacy Expert Susan Bratton. Susan is the CEO and co-founder of The20, LLC. and Personal Life Media, Inc. She is an expert on sex and intimacy with features on multiple major media outlets such as the New York Times and frequent appearances on ABC, CBS, the CW, Fox, and NBC. In this episode, Susan shares an empowering message to help women access levels of sexual pleasure and enhance their sexual self-confidence. With tips on intimate communication, lovemaking, and self-pleasuring, this episode has everything you need to know to own your sexuality and achieve incredible pleasure.

Enhancing Your Sexual Self Confidence With Intimacy Expert Susan Bratton

I am going to talk about sex. It’s weird to me because I’ve been doing this show for how many years. I’m focusing on love, relationships, confidence, and dating, but I never have a whole episode around sexual confidence, which is an important topic in attracting a partner. While it can mean different things to different people, in general, sexual confidence is a feeling of being comfortable in your body. It’s knowing you deserve pleasure and being able to articulate what you enjoy as well as listening to the needs of your sexual partner and all that stuff that goes into that, how that impacts, like how you put yourself out there.

Of all the things that affect our sexual satisfaction, the most important element is sexual confidence. By that, I mean knowing not only that you’re desirable, but also that you bring to a sexual encounter is likely to be highly valued by your partner. There are a lot of resources out there. Not surprisingly, sexually confident people seem to be more sexually active. They date more. They have a whole lot more fun doing it, too. That doesn’t mean they confuse quantity with quality. What sets this sexually confident man or woman apart is that they are relaxed.

They experience things fully because they aren’t self-conscious. They don’t obsess about rejection or failure. As a result, they enjoy success after success. Many people speak of sexual confidence almost as if it were like this exotic potion, this voodoo thing enjoyed only by the lucky few and not sure how to get it. I’m jazzed about this topic because I came off of doing my Spark Your Sexy Women’s Retreat, where we were focusing on gaining sexy confidence.

That’s a little different. It involved sexual self-confidence, but I was focusing on their body, wardrobe, conversation skills, and flirting techniques. What was interesting is that so many of the women there revealed that they hadn’t had sex for a very long time and admitted that it impacted their confidence overall and flirtation with men. They felt like part of themselves were shut down and more over a lot disclosed, feeling bad about their body, especially with it shifting over the years, which then impacted them, putting themselves out there.

It’s all intertwined. We talked about how their lack of sexy confidence impacted the signals they were sending to the men. They didn’t even realize how powerful it was because of body language. They couldn’t even see themselves, but during the retreat, they felt it. They want to feel they can walk into a room and seduce a man yet they fear it, too. It was beautiful to watch them come out of their shell. We went through a whole makeover process with their wardrobe, hair, and makeup. They took a salsa dancing lesson. They were moving their hips, their hips were not lying, and a lot of their body language worked.

To take them to the test, I brought a bunch of bachelors to practice on. I had to share it because it was fun and it relates to what we’re talking about. At the time that they arrived, after working with them, the ladies were wearing cat ears and red lipstick. They were coming out greeting the men to the song, “I’m too sexy.” I created these beautiful, sexy monsters. Quite honestly, they liked it.

The good news is that if sexual self-confidence, a seemingly mystical characteristic, is missing in your life, things can change. If you’re sexually insecure, uptight, or feel as if you aren’t very good at it at all, all of that can change. The good news is that attaining sexual confidence is totally up to you. It’s time for you to put a little strut in your stuff.

While I can help you dance to, “I’m too sexy,” I’m not versed. I’m not a sex expert. I’m bringing on the expert to help you feel that sexual confidence with a lot of tangible tips. She is the Cofounder and CEO of two corporations, Personal Life Media, a publisher of heart-connected lovemaking techniques and bedroom communication skills, and The20, LLC, a manufacturer of organic and botanical supplements that enhance sexual vitality.

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She is a best-selling author and publisher of 34 books and programs, including Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, Ravish Him, Steamy Sex Ed, The Passion Patch, Hormone Balancing, and Hot To Trot. She has been featured in the New York Times, CNBC, and The Today Show, as well as frequent appearances on ABC, CBS, The CW, Fox, NBC, and now in the show. Welcome, Susan Bratton. How are you there?

I am here.

You are a light. I stumbled upon you. You’re hard to stumble upon because you are so radiant and beautiful, but I didn’t know you. We met at this conference, this mutual group that we’re in. I remember seeing you and I was like, “Who is that goddess over there?” You exude that sexual confidence and beauty inward and out. I love how we connected, then we’re like, “We got to do a show together.”

You were warm and inviting. Thank you so much.

I don’t know that much about you and that’s why I love doing these shows. I’d love for you to share your story and journey. What got you into all the sex talk, to begin with?

I love my title. It’s Intimacy Expert To Millions. There are a couple of reasons why it’s my title. I used to have a title that was Trusted Hot Sex Advisor To Millions. I loved that title. Is it hot sex or are you a hot sex advisor? It was a double entendre because I always felt like if I was going to teach people how to transform having sex into making love, which is what I do, I should be sexy. Dr. Ruth was from a different era. We needed to hear from a little German lady what we needed to know about sex, but now sexperts need to be sexy. You need to walk your talk.

When you turned and you saw me in my bright turquoise pool outfit and went, “Who is that? I want to meet her,” a big part of that is that I am 60 years old and I love to be as sexy as hell. I want to be as sexy as I possibly can. When my PR firm got ahold of me, they were like, “No. This is way over the top. You can’t be a Trusted Hot Sex Advisor To Millions. You need to be the Intimacy Expert To Millions,” because intimacy is a communication strategy for sex without saying sex because everybody is afraid of sex. We get ashamed about sex.

Many people honestly have been sexually molested, salted, and traumatized. We’ve been laughed at, kicked out of bed, or impregnated by accident. The road of our sexuality is littered with traumas. Our parents didn’t teach us about sex. It wasn’t their job, but we still aren’t over that. I got here because a little over the years into my marriage, I had stopped wanting sex with my husband because I’d never had an orgasm after over the years of intercourse with him. I wasn’t interested in doing it anymore. He was frustrated with me and had emotionally checked out of the marriage. We said, “What are we doing? This is not right. We are two very smart people. We should be able to figure this out.”

TCQ Susan Bratton | Sexual Self Confidence
Sexual Self Confidence: The minute we started learning sexual techniques and communicating with each other, we started having great sex. It was that simple.

 

We started going to therapists, but then we started going to sex workshops. The minute we started learning sexual techniques and communicating with each other, we started having great sex. It was that simple. I was like, “What the what? How come we’re not taught these things?” We’re not taught these things because we live in a religiously-oriented, patriarchal suppression-repression paradigm. That isn’t going to last much longer because women are like, “Screw you, people. We’re taking our sex back. Not only that, but we’re moving from patriarchal sex, which is the sex we’ve been getting from you, guys, to matriarchal sex.”

What gives us confidence is understanding that the sex we want that until I tell you what it is, you’re like, “I never thought about it that way.” That is what I want that I’m not getting. As soon as you hear about it, you’re like, “That’s what I want,” then you’re empowered to explain that to your partner because there is one thing that I know about men. Certainly, there are men who are oppressing women and doing terrible things to women, but that’s not most of them.

Mostly, we’re in relationships with lovely kindhearted men who are doing the best they can do with the information they have. They didn’t get me information either. Not only that, but the information they do get is pornography, which is disempowering for them and us as women because it shows what men want to visually see to masturbate because they have to keep their sperm topped off. They’re biologically driven to masturbate more than we are. They masturbate all the time to porn, then they see porn and then they think that’s what sex is. They think that’s what their sex education is. Everything is so screwed up.

There were many things that you were saying that I wanted to comment on. The notion of when you were in that place where things stopped with your husband. I hear this a lot with men and women who maybe haven’t been in a relationship for a long time and they’re like getting back out there and dating. There are different parts of our lives where we shut down. Was it like that before in your life and you had to regain some of that sexual drive and confidence, or was this something always a part of you? Do you have advice for that? We ebb and flow in the way that our sexual confidence plays out with different partners.

I always wanted good sex. I always had pretty mediocre sex when I met my husband. I thought it was good to start. It was as good as I knew that it could be possible, but it wasn’t good enough to keep me interested for years. We need to be increasing our set point of what we think is good sex, higher and better as we go. When we’re in our twenties and we start having sex, it’s all new, novel, and exciting.

By our 30s, we’re like, “It’s okay, but honestly, I never had an orgasm from intercourse. I hear other women are enjoying female ejaculatory orgasms. The only way I can come is through this one vibrator that I use and that’s my path. I don’t feel like I’m living up to my potential compared to what other women are having.”

You hit your 40s. If you had kids, they’re becoming established a little bit. You don’t have to be exhausted raising them, then you’re like, “Either my partner is boring to me. He stinks. He’s fat. I can’t stand him or we finally get some time together. We have to start over. We’re having a renaissance in our relationship,” or anything along those along that spectrum.

We want to have sex, but then we start feeling like, “Maybe we’re too old. Maybe we’re not attractive anymore.” All the body image, if they haven’t already been creeping in, they start creeping in. That puts us off. There’s all this stuff that gets in our way of having the joyous part of our humanity, which is our sexuality, intimate connection, and incredible pleasure.

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I feel like, in a way, one of the jobs that I do is to give people permission to have great sex, tell them that they deserve it, and how to get over it, especially women specifically. Why do we have body image issues? Madison Avenue, Photoshop, filters, Instagram, and all that stuff, but that’s not what it is. It’s not the unobtanium of others. It’s estrogen that makes us judgmental and critical, especially when we hit our 30s. I can tell a 30-year-old blindfolded because they’re all judgy.

When you’re judgmental, it’s a process of individuation, “I’m judging things to decide what’s right for me. These are the things that aren’t right for me.” You get judgy. You get through that by the time you’re in your 40s and often, you have a renaissance, almost like the midlife crisis. I don’t like to call it that. What I call it is, “I’ve been a good girl and done all the stuff that everybody thought I should do. Now, screw you all. It’s my time. I’m going to have some fun.” That often happens for women in their mid to late 40s. They’re like, “Let’s go, people. I need more than I’ve been getting.”

I love to get to women at about that age because they’re willing to do what it takes to have what they want. They’re much less unencumbered by the machinations of polite society. They realize their sex life is behind closed doors. They’re willing to experiment. They have less of a sharp eye on their perfection. They’re more like, “It’s all going South. Let’s go.” They give up a little on all that worry about being perfect.

I love the evolution of what you’re saying, in each decade, how we all change, and the stressors because I’m thinking of myself as you were talking. I was like, “She’s right. That’s true.” Are there gender differences with men in the evolution of that?

It is so different.

What do men go through?

They go through that same novelty and variety of experiences in their twenties, but in some ways, they never change from that.

That’s what I was thinking. Is it more complex than I see?

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Sexual Self Confidence: Our set point of what we think is good sex need to be moving. We need to be increasing that set point higher and higher and higher, better and better and better as we go.

 

With men, it’s always less complex than you’ll see.

We are so complex in many ways and in beautiful ways.

They want to screw with 26-year-olds until the day they die. That’s what they want. They never think they’re too old. They’re 57. They got a grizzly old gray beard, a pot belly, and they’re like, “I’m on seeking arrangement. I try to pick up some 26-year-olds.” I’m like, “Why do you think they’re even going to have sex with you?” “It’s because I’m going to pay for dinner.” They get it.

I hear men talk about a lot of the sexual dysfunction and the lack of erection that happens as they get older, how that impact their self-esteem and manlihood. Do you see that, too?

I see all that and more. There are three legs to my stool. I create passionate lovemaking techniques that transform having sex into making love, heart-connected, conscious lovemaking techniques, and the antidote to porn. I teach people orgasm skills, touch techniques, kissing techniques, oral pleasuring techniques, genital massage techniques, sensual massage techniques, touch, physical driven, “Step-by-step, here’s how you do it. Have you thought of this? Try this.”

The second thing I do is teach bedroom communication skills, all kinds of skills. One of them is the SexualSoulmatePact.com, which is one thing I want to give your audience. It is essentially how to ask for what you want even if you don’t know what you want, but you know what you’re getting. Isn’t it in a ninja way that if you’re with a male body partner, they’re going to be happy you told them?

They’re not going to contract, get their feelings hurt, and be all like, “Eh,” which they do if you give them any feedback. I’m not going to go into it because you can download it for free. The number one most important thing I can give anyone is understanding what you want and then communicating it to your partner in a way that they’re like, “Thank you. How’s it feel now?” Magic words.

The thing that I teach is similar because it is all the same. I call myself a strategist. I don’t even call myself a therapist or coach these days because people need strategies. They need techniques and skills that will help with their confidence. I feel like that’s what you’re doing. The most crucial part of it is that once you learn these skills, you get a partner. How do we communicate with one another? Whether that’s in bed or in the relationship, it’s important. I love that you break it down that way. You make the way that you’re talking about it so easy because, to your point, sex seems taboo.

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If you’re over 40 reading this, we grew up in an era where sex was more taboo. We didn’t have the internet or education like that. We had to figure it out on our own secretly. I love the way that you’re making it normal. One thing I wondered is, do you ever help people or give advice that you see with people who are stuck in a rut and feel like they want to have sexual experiences, but they have some guilt around it? They haven’t been out there dating. They’re almost stuck with their cobwebs, and they don’t know how to get themselves unstuck.

I want to finish what I was saying about what guys struggle with because it was interesting. I kept the thread. The techniques are one thing. What you start with is learning, then you learn the bedroom communication skills, and they work so beautifully together. The third leg of this tool is sexual health. That is, “How do we keep our vulvas lubricated? How do we feel our pleasure? How do we deal with all the things that happen to our bodies?”

What men struggle with certainly, and younger, low testosterone, erectile dysfunction, etc., a lot of guys, because their firmness wanes perceptibly over the years that a guy will think that he’s perfectly fine. He has a wet noodle. He thinks it’s safe because he can masturbate and have an orgasm with it, but it’s barely strong enough to penetrate. He’s unaware that it’s weak.

I wrote a book that has had over 50,000 downloads. It’s called The Pump Guide. It’s at PumpingGuide.com, which is for men who want to use a penis pump to reverse atrophy and for enlargement. Even men who are 6.5, sometimess7 inches in size, which is well above average, think that their penises are way too small. They are shamed, embarrassed, and afraid to date because they think their penis isn’t big enough, not hard enough because they watch too much porn.

They see all those giant flogs on their computer, television, or their wide screen and their easy chair. They must be like 7 feet wide on their big-screen TVs. They feel marginalized and then they stop going out. Many men sit at home, wonderful men with so much love to give that don’t get given over their porn habit and their fear of their penis as not being good enough.

Women are not the only ones with body image issues. I know men very intimately. I help many of them. I talked to a guy and he said, “I’m 5.5 inches long. A girlfriend shamed me. I haven’t dated since. Do you think a pump will help me? Can I get to 10 inches?” I’m like, “How about if you get to 6 or 7 and you’ll be bigger than most men and you don’t have to worry about getting to 10?”

“Why are you asking me, ‘How long will it take me to get to 10 inches?’ when you could be 6 and girls will be fine with that? You need to be a nice guy and know how to use it.” They’re wrapped up in their own whole other world of crazy thinking like we are. You’re not alone if you’ve had body image issues. I explained these things partially because it’s interesting for women to hear the stuff that I talk about with men. Secondly, have some empathy for them.

Sexual confidence is focused a lot on women out there, even socially. I’m encountering a lot of men, great guys, and they are shut down. That was my train of thought. Both sexes shut down.

TCQ Susan Bratton | Sexual Self Confidence
Sexual Self Confidence: Self-pleasuring and doing this orgasmic cross training teaches you how to have orgasms in different ways so that you become very multi-orgasmic and more sexually self confident because you don’t have so much performance anxiety.

 

It’s called performance anxiety in my world. Men and women, people across the gender spectrum, all suffer from it. Even at 60 years old, having the best sex life of my life. I have incredible partners. You couldn’t have a quiz show and have me as your opponent and win at anything around sex. It would be tough. I’m an old lady doing this for a long time with a lot of experience. I still get performance anxiety, “Am I going to be able to come?” I’m like, “You are because you have crazy comer. You’re going to be able to come for goodness sake. Let it go.” That’s my estrogen making me worried because one of estrogen’s jobs is to keep us safe.

We are prey as women. We are estrogen-based. We’re like horses. We startle. We’ll run because the cougar will come to eat us. The mountain lion will come to eat us and men are the mountain lions. We have to be careful. We’re lucky if all we’ve had is a brush with abuse of some kind. Most of us have been abused, terrorized, raped, hurt, shamed, etc.

We have to get over all that to come into our own God-given sexuality, but we can because we, women are strong. We persist and we have the desire for incredible, passionate lovemaking. We believe it is possible we have to hold onto that hope and put ourselves out there safely. That’s why I’m glad you’re doing what you’re doing, which is taking those women who do feel like, “Where do I start? How do I do this?”

What I would say is masturbation. One of the things I thought would be fun was to talk to you about something that I learned from one of my mentors. I’ve been lucky to have some incredible mentors. One of them is Sheri Winston, who wrote one of the best books I’ve ever read about sex called Women’s Anatomy Of Arousal. She’s taught me so much about female anatomy and what it takes to get us turned on because remember when I was talking about the matriarchal versus patriarchal sets?

The masculine has something called hemodynamics. We all have hemodynamics. It’s how fast and well your blood flows. The way men are anatomically designed with these three chambers in their penis, the blood goes right in them real fast and blocks their penis. The muscles of their vascular system hold the blood in and trap it there for a firm erection. Men have three tubes of erectile tissue in their penis. We have three erectile tissue systems in our vulva. We’ve got our clitoral structure, the wishbone structure. We have the urethral structure, which people call a G-spot, but it’s a long spongy noodle. We have perineal sponges on the bottom of our vaginas.

Our vagina is completely wrapped in erectile tissue. If we’re lucky, our partner puts a little pleasure on one little tip of the iceberg but doesn’t understand how all that works. Our job is to teach our male body partners to touch our entire vulva and pleasure our entire vulva to give us the clitoral erection that we need to feel all the pleasure that we’re capable of.

One of my girlfriends is having a baby, and I’m going to be her ecstatic birth partner. She wants to have an ecstatic birth. We’re learning about ecstatic birth together. She came over the other day and I gave her a vulva massage. It was the first time I’d ever done this. It’s our experiment that we’re doing together. We’re on this journey together. I want to help her usher in her little girl in an ecstatic birthing experience. There will be a midwife there and all that stuff. I’m just added as the person to help her bat.

I gave her probably like an hour’s worth of vulva massage. I started with her breasts in her belly and worked my way down to her mounds. I got that tissue very fluid, then I worked my way down to the outer labia underneath the pubic hair on each side, then I did her thighs, her groin, and her little sweet butt cheeks. I started on her inner labia. I started touching the hood of her clitoris, then I stroked long fingers and swiped up and down the vestibule, which is the opening to the whole area where the inside of the vagina is, where your exit comes out underneath the clitoris.

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I stroked all that. Over time, I started gently stroking her clitoral structures. I was telling her the whole time what I was touching and what I was doing. I went inside with my fingers after I made sure she was okay if I entered her and I stroked the roof where the G area is. I felt the whole opening to her vagina, the introital sphincter. I touched the whole thing like a clock and told her where my fingers were.

What was important to me was that I said, “This is the thing that’s going to get damaged in childbirth, if anything does, because it’s this tight little sphincter muscle. We have to work on this and get this loose, smooth, open, full of blood, healthy, and juicy over the next few months before you deliver, so nothing gets torn, stretched, or hurt.”

That’s what they cut in an episiotomy. They cut that sphincter muscle down through the perineum, so the baby’s head can come out if it doesn’t stretch open enough. I don’t want any surgery or anything to happen to her like that. I said, “This feels tight.” I want you to open it. You’re going to birth the baby like you’re going to birth an orgasm. You’re pushing out. You’re opening your vulva. It’s always opening, not crunching down.

I stroked inside her vagina. I showed her where a perineal sponge was, where her G-spot was, and where the nerves ran down on the sides toward her legs. She could feel it all. Yoni is another word for the vulva. It’s a tantric lovemaking word. The penis is called lingam. They are tantric lovemaking words, which I think are pretty. A couple of days later, she texted and said, “My yoni is activated. I realized that all the guys that I’ve ever been with, if they even touch my clitoris, all they do is just go enter me so quickly. I’ve never had anyone knead and stroke my outer lips as you did before. It’s incredible. I feel so good. I feel so calm and yet turned on.”

I think to myself, the more that we understand that we need these things and teach our partner these things, the better our sex gets because we get all this engorgement. The second piece is self-pleasuring and doing this orgasmic cross-training that I learned from Sheri. It teaches you how to have orgasms in different ways so that you become multi-orgasmic and more sexually self-confident because you don’t have so much performance anxiety.

These are the things we women do for each other. Me giving her a yoni massage was not a sexual experience. It was a woman-to-woman loving, supportive awakening and sensual experience. These are the kinds of things we can do. It doesn’t make us gay. It doesn’t make us anything but loving female sister beings. The more we can talk to each other, share, look at each other’s vulvas and realize they’re all so beautiful and different, the more we can honor our own vulvas.

The more we can learn how to give ourselves orgasms, the better off we’ll be in the long run with our confidence sexually. There are a couple of sex toys that I like to recommend for women who want to go on this orgasmic cross-training journey. I could go there or not with you. We only have a few minutes left. I can come back. I’ll drop there and let you decide how we close off.

I imagine that they’re going to get so many amazing tools going to your stuff. I want you to announce where they can get your information, but maybe you could give 1 or 2 tools to tease them with so that they have to come back for more.

TCQ Susan Bratton | Sexual Self Confidence
Sexual Self Confidence: The more we can honor our own vulvas, the more we can learn how to give ourselves orgasms, the better off we’ll be in the long run with our confidence sexually.

 

The tool that I would like to give you as a video is at ArousalTips.com. It’s a video explaining the difference between your libido, desire, and arousal as a woman, why your libido is not broken, and how your arousal systems work. It goes over with pictures and all the anatomy that we’ve discussed. It gives you so much more of this conversation of what is the matriarchal view of sex. How does a woman need to have sex? Why are our bodies different than men’s?

Why have we been having sex like men? What’s women’s sex life? Not two women together, but what does a woman need from her partner of any gender? It is the thing that I would like to give to your readers. When you go to that or you go to SexualSoulmatePact.com, you opt-in and you get all my sex tips newsletter, which you can unsubscribe from at any time, but you won’t want to.

It’s what we need to build confidence overall. That is not only the tools but the practice. I define confidence as a simple word, experience. I don’t believe there’s one person that’s not confident. It’s just that there’s an area that they haven’t had either positive exposure to or they haven’t had exposure to. What you’re saying and what you’re giving everybody are tangible things that you can do.

If you get these techniques down with your own body and you do it over and over again, and you’re having success with it, imagine how much more confident you’ll feel with a man and then be able to communicate that. I love that you’re open with all this stuff because it makes everyone else receive it in a more relaxed way. That’s what it’s all about. You’re amazing. I could talk to you all day and night. Were there any other last-minute words of wisdom or tips that you wanted to share?

Taking on your own solo masturbation practice and learning different ways to come with different toys is a good idea. It increases your orgasmic capacity. It improves your ability to have orgasms with a partner when you have a partner, not reduces it. It doesn’t wear out your clitoris. It doesn’t desensitize you. You might be temporarily desensitized for 1 minute or 2, but then you have a quick refractory period and you can come again and again.

If you’d like to follow me, here are the places to find me. I have over 200 free videos at BetterLover.com. I have over 5,000 articles that I’ve written over many years at PersonalLifeMedia.com. They’re both searchable by keywords. If there’s something on your mind, “How do I give a good blow job? My vagina smells weird,” whatever it is, I got articles on that. You can follow me on Instagram. If you want to know me and it’s @SusanBratton. I did a post about my daughter, who is 25 and amazing. It was a mom brag post, but mostly it’s about sexy stuff, but it’s my sexy life.

Thank you so much for sharing everything and coming on. I’m sure everyone will want you back. Thanks for joining me, you reading. Remember you can build confidence, make connections, and find love from the outside in. If you want to know more, make sure you go to my site, KimmySeltzer.com. If you struggle with your sexy confidence and it’s affecting your self-esteem when dating, first of all, download Susan’s fabulous products. Hop on a call with me to help you be more comfortable in your skin and give off signals to attract those dates. Who knows? That one call could change the entire course of your life as it does with so many. Working on you is working on your dating life. That’s all for now.

 

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About Susan Bratton

TCQ Susan Bratton | Sexual Self ConfidenceSusan Bratton, “Intimacy Expert to Millions💋” is a champion and advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. 

She is co-founder and CEO of two corporations: Personal Life Media, Inc., a publisher of heart-connected lovemaking techniques and bedroom communication skills and The20, LLC., a manufacturer of organic and botanical supplements that enhance sexual vitality. 

A best-selling author and publisher of 34 books and programs including Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, Ravish Him, Steamy Sex Ed™, The Passion Patch, Hormone Balancing, and Hot To Trot. 

Susan has been featured in the New York Times and on CNBC and the TODAY show as well as frequent appearances on ABC, CBS, The CW, Fox and NBC.

You can find The Susan Bratton Show® at BetterLover.com, her personal shares on Instagram @susanbratton, and her lust-for-life supplements, FLOW and DESIRE at The20store.com.

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