Everyone experiences extreme life events that impact how we think, act and behave throughout our loves. If you’ve experienced trauma, physical, verbal or emotional abuse in your family or past relationships, this week’s episode will resonate with you. You’ll hear Kimmy have a coaching call with Margaret, a healthcare worker who is struggling to move beyond her past and find love again.  After leaving an abusive 11-year marriage, Margaret is focused on how she can shift her perspective to start attracting different people into her life. 
EPISODE 210 of The Charisma Quotient Podcast is titled: How Trauma Prevents You From Finding Love:  Coaching With Kimmy
Kimmy dives in by describing the signs of the 3 most common responses to fear: fight, flight or freeze. If one of more of these responses feels like you, listen in to hear proven strategies to begin breaking those patterns for yourself, while still prioritizing your own health and safety. Margaret jumps in to share that she has no problem meeting guys, but when it comes to trusting their motives, it’s a different story. If you’ve built in some questions to “test” your dates early on, Kimmy explains reasons why this tactic may backfire when trying to filter through red flags. Margaret also shares what the dynamics in her family looked like growing up and Kimmy identifies how those patterns could be repeating themselves in her dating life today. If you’ve found success in “fixing” or helping others, this conversation will illuminate how this dynamic creates unhealthy dating dynamics. Kimmy shares some tips on how to check in with yourself and what you’re feeling to make sense of the reactions you may have to different behavior. If you have a tendency to focus on making others happy at the expense of getting your own needs met, stay tuned to hear how you can take small steps to start breaking those patterns. Learn how to shift the focus back to you, instead of trying to predict what the person you’re dating may or may not be concealing.  
If Margaret’s experience resonates with you and you’re looking for a path that could release you from your past trauma in relationships, reach out to Kimmy for a complimentary coaching call here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough When you learn to shift your focus from others to yourself at this stage, you’ll be able to build a sense of empowerment, raise your standards and go after what you want and deserve in a relationship.
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