The List Lady

There is a bugs bunny list that scrolls out 10 feet long of all the qualities the man must be. You are constantly checking off the list and in the end decide that no one can ever really fulfill your requirements so therefore you hypothesize "there are no good men out there!" Because there is too much focus and emphasis on completing the checklist during a date, it becomes a Q&A interview rather than just being in the moment and having fun getting to know the person.

Typical Characteristics

  • You conduct a date like an interview process rather than having fun and being light.
  • There is a sense of urgency or desperation to find the "right one," perhaps due to a current desire such as wanting kids or healing from a previous relationship.
  • You are very target specific in a social setting with whom you will talk and flirt with. You will onlynshow interest and pay attention to guys who have potential or you are attracted to.
  • You say to your friends often, "There are no good men out there." Or, "These aren't the kind of men I would date."
  • You will only dress sexy for men that you are interested in.
  • You expect a man to come up to you, and feel that you have no role in that.

Your Secret Weapons

  • What is most important for you is to let go of the list, be in the moment and use social situations to create opportunity no matter what the outcome may be.
  • Avoid asking a million questions of the man on a date and share personal stories instead. This allows a man to really “see” you, creates connection and elicits more exciting conversation between the two of you. Letting a man know who you are and showing emotions and vulnerabilities will help you connect with him faster. The more you connect on an emotional level, the more someone will want to know you more.

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