“I’ll date when I have perfect pictures for my online profile. I’ll buy new clothes when I lose 10 lbs. I’ll talk to that attractive woman standing alone in the market when I find the right thing to say.” Sound familiar? Let’s face it, we can all be hard on ourselves. In fact, we often are our worst enemy. So much so that we focus on everything that we don’t like about ourselves or how we can be better. But centering on being “perfect” prevents you from taking action and you might be missing opportunities in your life. Instead, embrace your strengths and what you have right now because THAT is what is attractive– not being perfect. Here are a few tips to help let go of the need of supreme perfection and love who you are.
Love your body — Look in the mirror and pick out your top 3 (or more) favorite parts of your body. Pick out outfits that showcase your best assets and flaunt it so you look and feel body confident.
Get out of your head and just do it — Sometimes too much reading and not enough “doing” can really hold you back. You might have way too many facts and theories swimming in your head that you are forgetting to just be in the moment and have fun. You know all that you need to know, so it’s time to take action and move past the fears and obstacles that are holding you back.
Open up your body language — Many times when you are too focused on the results, you forget to be in the moment and you send messages with your body language that you are “closed.” You need to turn your cab light on and start sending smoke signals to men and women that you are available and open to talking. Smile, laugh and make eye contact with everyone when you walk into a room. It’s time to take off the blinders and take notice of who is looking at you.
Be vulnerable — It’s ok to feel and say what is on your mind. Take off the mask you might be hiding under. This allows people to really “see” you and creates connections.
Perfection is imperfection. Allow yourself to fail, feel and love who you are! If you are feeling frumpy, unattractive, outdated or overwhelmed every time you look in the mirror then contact me about my Makeover Weekends to get recharged, revitalized and get your sexy on! Love where you are today! Learn how to style yourself to feel great on the inside and to send those external signals that you are available and ready.